Do you have 5 minutes?
As I watched Jay Shetty’s video the other time, I thought of ALL the moms that I know. As a mom, you tend to give your time to everyone around you. You drain yourself of all the energy by giving it to your significant other, your kids, your parents, your job, your chores, and your friends. When the evening comes, you’re pooped. You basically gave the oxygen to everyone that it ran out and there was none left for you.
Then you feel lonely even if you’re surrounded with others. In the video, Jay Shetty suggests having 30 min for you, just you. No social media, TV, just you and yourself doing something that you like.
Then I thought about it, if you don’t spend time with yourself at all now, 30 min is gonna sound like a LONG time. Unless you start small. As you know me, I always recommend baby steps. This is how I transformed my health and my finances. What happens when you don’t take baby steps?
Let’s say you took Shetty’s advice and you spent 30 min a day today, tomorrow and after tomorrow. Wanna know what happens the day after tomorrow? YOU DON’T HAVE TIME. Then you give up and move on to the next trend.
When you work your way up, it becomes a habit and it becomes part of you.
So today I started the challenge of spending time alone. I made breakfast for the kids, made myself a cup of coffee and went to the backyard.
I enjoyed the plants, the little ants and roly-polies. Every time I found myself wondering what my next social media post is going to be, I looked at the ants again and just enjoyed the simplicity. I walked around the yard as I was sipping my warm organic coffee with coconut creamer.
I ended up staying outside more than 5 minutes because I didn’t have my phone with me which is ok. However, my commitment is 5 min per day for me and only me whether in the backyard, or taking a walk, reading a book, breathing, praying, etc… time for me without the kids, chores, or phone. I’ll increase the 5 min when it becomes a habit, little by little, step by step.
Jay Shetty said “if we don’t understand how to be alone, we always end up feeling lonely.”
The kids will eventually get older and leave the house. If you constantly lived for them, when they go off to college or to start their own lives, who are you gonna live for? Live your life for you NOT for anyone else.
As a mom, you might think this is selfish but when mama got energy, mama is fun and the whole attitude of the house changes. So it’s not selfish. By taking time for you, you’re teaching your kids to take time for themselves.
If you want to commit to 5 min a day time alone just for you and you want accountability, join the free Facebook group. In this group, we can hold each other accountable to eating healthier, exercising more, taking more time for us, learning new recipes, and sharing recipes with others. Click on this link and introduce yourself.
P.S: I’d love to hear from you, if you took 5 min of your day for you, what would you like to do with it? Tell me in the comments below.