You are unique! Stop comparing yourself to others.
Why do we compare ourselves to others? It is somehow a need to compare ourselves to other people . Maybe to get validation that we may be better or to immerse ourselves in complete misery because we do not have what celebrities have! With social media, this need has increased. It is like we truly have to keep up with others. Don’t you see yourself checking someone’s profile and you are not even “friends” with them?
At some point, consciously or unconsciously, whether we like to admit or not, we have asked this question.
Why don’t I have what they have? If you did not then you are rare and I applaud you so tell me your secret !! But you know deep down you have 😉 Seriously if you have not, email me at firstname.lastname@example.org and tell me your secret or share with all of us in the comments !
This question comes after looking at someone’s facebook profile or instagram.
The answer is : How do you know what they have? how do you know what they don’t have?
No one wants to post a picture with their eyes closed, their lipstick smudged, fighting with their significant other or yelling at their kids? Can we literally post a picture yelling?? maybe a video !
Remember before digital photography, only nice pictures went into the photo album. Look at your mom’s or your grandma’s. When I look at the black and white pictures from my grandma’s photo album, I am always surprised ! It is like: was there a need to cut someone off in a picture? You see 5 people but you can only see 4 and a 1/4 ! And I say, the person taking the picture totally needed an iphone 😉
So let me tell you this:
If people display happiness that doesn’t mean they are problem free.
If people smile , that doesn’t mean they don’t cry.
If people go on vacation, that does not mean they don’t ever struggle financially.
If my son gets an award , that does not mean he is a perfect child because he is NOT ( I like to secretly think he is )
If someone is skinny , that does not mean they are healthy!
If someone is chubby, that does not mean they are sick!
If someone is successful that does not mean they don’t work day and night!
If someone has a housekeeper , that does not mean they sit on their butts all day doing nothing! ( I WISH)
If a mom stays home with her kids, that does not mean she has nothing to do all day!
If kids are being home schooled , that does not mean they will not make a difference in the world!
We are all human beings. We get sad, upset, happy, angry, irritable, we go through highs and lows.
However, we don’t showcase the negative emotions. We like to show people our good side, our good poses, our proud moments.
What do others do when they see positivity? They start envying!
With envy comes negative energy that is directed to the person trying to portray their good side to their friends and family.
Whether you mean it or not, with the negative comments you make about your friend’s picture, you are envying him/her and sending them negative vibes.
Enough with the envy! and greed!
You have exactly what they have!
You have a brain, head, eyes, ears, nose, mouth, teeth, heart, lungs etc… Did I make my point?
You have something they don’t have and that’s YOU, your uniqueness , your voice and your mind/soul.
So the next time you are looking at someone’s picture , instead of envying them , genuinely compliment them. Send them good energy . Really pray for them if you tell them ” prayers “.
Comparing yourself to others is useless because you literally can’t compete with every single person in the world !! So let it go, and be you !!! ONLY you can change you ! Only you can accomplish and achieve your dream by being unique not by envying and whining.
There , I said it all because I’m guilty of it too .
I would like to hear from you in the comments below. How do you handle social comparisons or social media overload?
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